Ensuring Daughter’s Self Esteem

I Don’t Want My Teen Daughter to Lose Her Self Esteem

 

This post is written for Five Minute Friday at Kate Motaung. This week’s prompt is Lose.

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She loves everyone. Her smile lights up a room. She listen to Twenty One Pilots and Imagine Dragons.

 

Of the two, I find Twenty One Pilots the weirdest music. I am caught in my own parental cycle. I hear myself saying, “Why do you listen to music like that?”

My father said the same thing of the Christian contemporary music that I listened too in the 1980s.  I wish she would listen to Christian music that espouses God. She is in a phase, however, when her self esteem is based on her peer views of her. She wants to fit in and listens to the music her peers like.

I don’t want her to lose self esteem. I want her to see herself like the song she wrote with a heart full of gold, believing she is already amazing. She will not let me share the video of her performing this song with you, but believe me it is beautiful.

She tells me to listen to the music that she likes. I find the lyrics hard to follow, and the music seems so different from what I listened too at her age. I mean what does “Guns For Hands” really mean?

She likes this music because it focuses on messages about improving society and important issues and features lyrics void of profanity and lyrics that degrade women.

I also did some research and found out that the leader of Twenty One Pilots is a devout Christian. Many of their lyrics are filled with allusions to their faith.

I delight in this song written by Tyler Joseph, lead singer of Twenty One Pilots.

I wish Tyler continued to write more songs that highlight faith in Christ.

She says she didn’t even know that the band she loves wrote songs with Christian undertones. I guess she selected this band because of the truth found in this simple verse:

Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

How do you work to encourage self esteem in your children?

I feel like I need to take more time with her. Listen to her, not immediately jump to conclusions about her likes, and have faith that I am raising her in the Gospel. She gets tired of hearing it at times; but, I know deep down it is having an impact.

I need to let her go and grow; praying and reminding her she is Already Amazing. We are studying Holly Gerth’s book together this summer. It is excellent for your tween and teen girls. I am pulling out specific verses from the workbook and working through it with her.

Our tween and teen girls need grounding, so that they do not lose their self esteem and find the truth in the Gospel of Christ about His unfailing love for them. We need to work together to ensure that they do not lose their self esteem.

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